5 things to do before making a big decision

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[vimeo id="110608534"] At Southeastern University, we believe in shaping decision-makers. There are countless big decisions that we face in life. Where to go to college, who to marry, what job to get, what kind of house you should buy… If you’re not careful you’ll let the worry consume you. Decision-making is an important skill to learn and once its learnt, you will see worry decreasing in your life.

Here are 5 ideas that Relevant Magazine highlights to help guide you when making a big decision.

First, explore the options. There are many different answers to these big life decisions and many can be “right,” but which one is right for you? You can only discover the answer to this question when you explore your options. Once you know your options, you can narrow down your choices according your values. Find which options align with your values and then make the choice.

Second, understand who is influenced. Our choices will affect others, especially when you’re married and have children. Are you okay with the consequences or would another choice be more suitable? Try to assess how your choices will affect others. If you choose to move across country, your family will certainly be affected by that choice. So be ready to deal with all the possible outcomes.

Third, invite others to the table. You can’t know everything, so ask someone who’s been there, someone who can offer insight and advice.

Fourth, name your fears. What are you afraid of? Voice it. Once it’s out in the open, you can deal with it in an effective way. Fear always makes things seem worse than they really are. Bring your fears down to reality and work through them. I think we need to be more open about them and just talk through them with our close friends and mentors. Talking things out has a funny way of diffusing the stress of fears.

Fifth, make time for solitude. Be alone. Be still. Be quiet. Now this might be a given, but the truth is that many struggle with solitude. Sometimes we’re faced with decisions that are just simply out of our hands. We don’t have the wisdom to navigate it. This is the time to go before God and seek His advice and He’ll give it. He will do whatever it takes to help you make the decision that is best for you.

Thanks for taking the time to read my blog today. I trust you’ve been encouraged. If you have some more thoughts about these, I’d love to hear them. Please feel free to send me a few lines. Have a great day!