No one is immune to becoming his own worst enemy. It’s too easy to turn on ourselves with an internal barrage of negative, harsh messaging. Unfortunately, it’s one of the most detrimental roadblocks to discovering your divine design. As much as we try to think positive thoughts, it’s easy to slip back into the habit of self-doubt or succumb to the pressure of making a big decision. So how can we avoid being our own worst enemy?
Recently, I ran across a post on Mark Sanborn’s blog that shared one of the most helpful and practical ways to get out of your own way. Based on that premise, here are a few additional ways you can avoid being your own worst enemy when it comes to discovering your life’s purpose:
1. Reflect on the past to learn, develop, and grow. History can be a great teacher when it comes to helping us move in the right direction with our lives. When you have a sense of your divine design, reflection reveals the events and moments serving as the catalyst for igniting the process. Sometimes all we need to do is remind ourselves of the things that have prepared us for this moment.
2. Surround yourself with people who can help validate your ideas and decisions. Oftentimes, other people can help us see things that we can’t see in our own lives. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or mentor, surround yourself with people who know you. These people can affirm your ideas and decisions whenever you start to question things. At the same time, because these people know you, they can help call you out whenever you might be battling internal doubts.
3. Don’t accept any excuses. You are not good enough, you don’t have the time to do this, there is too much competition, nobody cares what you do, it is not perfect … blah blah blah. These are the excuses your self-doubt uses to keep you from moving forward. If you want to avoid becoming your own worst enemy, it’s important to separate the excuses from the proper insights or wisdom.
4. Act in the face of fear. If you’re paralyzed with fear or self-doubt, remember that’s a good sign. Fear and self-doubt are good because they’re often indicators that we’re on the brink of doing something incredible. Remember one rule of thumb: The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.
What are some other ways you avoid getting in your own way of discovering your divine design?