Your feelings are not the boss of your behavior


[vimeo id="107527350"] How many of you have ever had something unwanted happen to you and you immediately said “I feel like…” and then spent the rest of that day acting out the feeling? Maybe it was anger or bitterness or jealousy. Whatever it the feeling was, it dictated the rest of your day. In other words, it became your boss.

I came across a great post on Storyline Blog by John Richmond. He tells a story about his daughters’ bad day. Something happened to her and it made her feel angry. Most of us may think that she was justified in being upset, but Richmond handles it in a way that I think sheds some light on how we as Christians need to start looking at things.

He asks his daughter this question: If your life were a movie, how would you want the story to go on from here? How would you want yourself to respond?

This question really puts you in a commanding position. I mean, how many times do we just need to step back and see the bigger picture and get a new perspective? Are we letting God do His job in our story? Or are we getting in the way and letting our feelings dictate how we act?

Regardless of how someone made us feel, the way we respond is our way of writing down our story. We have the opportunity to create a great legacy when choose to respond in the right way in unfortunate situations.

I’m a big believer in Emotional Intelligence and I think that this idea really nails down the fact that we need to be self-aware. We need to understand our natural tendencies and become aware of our behavior. Once we do, we will have a stronger grasp in writing our story.

If we continue to allow our negative emotions dictate our responses, we’re in danger of ruining our story. I’m reminded of that old saying that eventually made it on to wristbands with the words “what would Jesus do.” It might be a bit out dated, but it’s still true. Let’s start asking ourselves how would God have us respond?

By cultivating this approach to negative situations, I believe we will become more empowered to create amazing life stories.

Thanks for checking out my blog today. I trust you’ve been encouraged by these thoughts. If you have some follow up ideas, then please feel free to respond below. Have a great day!