[vimeo id="108254202"] If IQ doesn’t do it, then what does? Well, I don’t think there are any guarantees, but the element that certainly has a huge impact on success is the level of your emotional intelligence. This one strength will have an enormous effect on how well you perform at your future work place. Being able to navigate the room in a way that emotionally sets you apart is one of the keys to success. You may have all the knowledge in the world and your IQ might be through the roof, but unless you develop ways to navigate people and various personalities, then you’re setting yourself up for a failure in the work place.
Daniel Goldman published a blog on this idea – I encourage to read it. One of the points that really stuck out to me was when he said, “The abilities that set stars apart from average at work cover the emotional intelligence spectrum: self-awareness, self-management, empathy, and social effectiveness.
Let’s break these down…
First, Self-awareness. In order to have an effective EQ you must learn to have strong understanding of yourself and regularly assess your skills sets. Take a full account of how these have changed and developed over a period of time. Don’t be shocked when you realize that your not the same person that you were a year ago. Your skill sets will change, and new ones will be added on as you deal with new circumstances, problems and ideas. Here’s a tool that that you can use to assess yourself. Every week, month, and year, look at what you’ve accomplished, where you’ve been, who you’ve met and what challenges you overcame – then write a paper on it. This is how I do it and it’s been a great life tool for me over the years.
Second, Self-management. Here’s the funny thing about self-management, you may already think that your doing a good job in this, but the reality is that you see it only through your eyes. That’s a very limited point of view. I always wonder what other people are thinking as I’m interacting with them on a team or on project. Am I dominant? Can I lead? Do people trust me? Am I communicating clearly? All these questions and more are great to ask from people who you do life with and who you work with. These answers will help you manage yourself as you grow and develop as a leader.
Third, Empathy. Here’s the deal with empathy, it’s not a pity party for the other person. It’s not about jumping in the I feel sorry for myself crowd. No, empathy is about understanding what others are going through so that you can help them grow out of it. So learn to become empathetic towards others and their situations.
Fourth, Social Effectiveness. All these previous abilities are what build your effectiveness in social situations. If you’ve assessed yourself, managed yourself and indicate a high degree of empathy – you will be much more empowered in social circumstances. One more that needs to be added to social effectiveness is your ability gauge the emotional temperature of a room or a conversation. By doing that you can understand what the situation needs. Once you gage where people are at an emotional level, you’ll have a better understanding of what needs to happen in that moment. This is also how effective leaders can contextualize their leadership for the moment, and become the leader that the moment needs.
So don’t just rely on your IQ, it’s one thing to know everything and another to apply it in an emotionally savvy way.
Well, I trust I’ve encouraged you today and helped you become a more effective leader. If you have any follow up thoughts. Please feel free to let me know. Have a great day!