[vimeo id="112742216"] Have the people around you ever felt threatened by your growth? Sometimes people welcome our development and sometimes they try to keep us down. Donald Miller posted an excellent blog on this idea in terms of how our growth drives our story. He talks about how the main character in a story needs to transform into something else throughout the character’s journey. Otherwise there really is no story. Character development is essential to story telling. In the same way God causes us to change and grow according to His good plan. Without change we begin to die.
I love this idea because it directly relates to the idea of Divine Design.
God created us to be molded and shaped throughout the adventure of life. It is his desire to see us become the person that He divinely designed us to be. His plan includes for us to go through various experiences – both good and tough – that will catalyze new areas of growth in our lives. This could be a new relationship, career transition, a new hobby, a move across the country, and just about anything else that brings a new challenge. The point is you were designed to change.
However, some people will experience significant roadblocks that will cause their growth to be limited. I’ll share a few that Don highlighted along with some of my own thoughts.
First, people may not want you to change because your relationship with them is comfortable. No matter what kind of change or growth you might experience in life, it will affect your relationships. It is likely that other people might not like this change because it disrupts the existing norms of your relationship with them. In other words, the change you go through might not be what other people would want for you. However, you must continue to change, because it is a part of the growth that God is cultivating into your life.
Second, you may have been in an inferior role in the relationship before, but grew out of it. Maybe you received advice from people before, but now you might be in a position to invest in their lives. Or perhaps now you are in a leadership position where others might have to follow you. People can get accustomed to having you in a certain position and might not want you to grow. They only care about themselves and the position they have over you. So don’t be held back by them.
Third, your new growth will not fulfill them. Your role in the lives of other people brings them a certain level of accomplishment. Many people don’t want this to change. However, people who are postured in a position of health will not have an issue with your growth. In fact, they welcome your development. Truly healthy leaders and friends will encourage you to change and become the person that God designed you to be.
The bottom line with all of these potential stunts to your growth is that they spring up from other people’s insecurities. Confident people do not hold back or hold down the change in their friends, family and coworkers. They encourage the change. They invest in the change. They help guide your growth in the best possible way. So, I encourage you today to invest in the people around you and welcome the change that God is bringing about in their lives.
Thanks for checking out my blog today. I trust I’ve encouraged you on your journey. If you have questions or follow up thoughts, then please feel free to respond below. Have a great day!