Leadership EQ: Self-awareness


[vimeo id = "120189375"] Shakespeare’s famous quote, “be true to yourself” has been a source of inspiration for many people throughout generations. However, it hinges on the assumption that you already know yourself. Many people haven’t gotten that far yet. That’s one reason I emphasize the importance of discovering God’s Divine Design and becoming self-aware. It’s not only pivotal for our lives, but also for leadership. Self-awareness, as defined by Daniel Goleman, means having a “deep understanding of one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, needs, and drives.” So today, I want to take a closer look at three ways self-awareness can affect leadership.

First, Values & Goals . Your values and goals are the deep sides of your life. If you go through life without examining where you’re headed or why you’re going there, you might find yourself skidding off the road and stuck in the mud spinning your wheels. However, if you know what you’re aiming for and understand your values and goals, you will continually examine your choices in light of those things. You’ll ask questions such as “Is this job propelling me towards my end goal?” or “Does this opportunity line up with what I value?” In a nutshell, you’ll stay on the right road.

Second, Openness & Candor. Self-awareness involves understanding the sub-conscious things that influence your decisions. You realize that you feel overwhelmed because you only slept a few hours last night. Or you identify that you disagree with an idea because it wasn’t originally yours. In other words, being self-aware means being honest and open with yourself and others. It means understanding the motives that drive our decision making. Self-awareness will help create the foundation for sincerity and openness. If we refuse to be self-aware, we might blind ourselves to ourselves. So always work to understand yourself so that you can understand the things that drive your decision-making.

Third, Self-confidence. If you lack a realistic assessment of yourself, you will try to prove your worth. Sadly, this can set you up to fail and eventually cause you to lash out at others. Remember, you cannot empower and inspire others this way. You have to be honest with yourself and recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Once we do, we will cultivate what I like to call – honest confidence. In other words, you know your value. You play to your strengths while acknowledging your weaknesses. This means you might not tackle a challenge you know you can’t handle or accept a project for which you don’t have enough resources. Or if you do, you will know who to hire to help you achieve the mission. Where many people think this is a sign of weakness, you know it’s actually self-confidence, because you’ve taken the time to become aware.

I hope my thoughts have inspired and encouraged you to become more aware of the Divine Design God has created in you. I would love to hear from you, so please feel free to share your thoughts below. Thanks for checking out my blog! Have a great day!