Leadership EQ: Self-Regulation


[vimeo id = 123446472] In Galatians 5:22-23, Paul lists the “fruits of the Spirit” which many people know by heart. These include love, joy, patience, and long-suffering. The list ends with one that is essential not only to Christ-followers, but also to all leaders – self-control.

In his ground-breaking article on Emotional Intelligence in the Harvard Business Review, Daniel Goleman talks about the power of self-regulation in effective leadership. An effective leader can’t be a “prisoner to their feelings.” If you are to cultivate an empowering environment, you must channel your feelings into discovering creative ways of investing into those around you. Here are three ways self-regulated leadership helps serve those around you.

First of all, self-regulated leaders are consistent and thoughtful individuals. There are few things as destructive and as an unpredictable and a temperamental boss. Such management fosters an environment of hesitation and fear. This hampers an employee’s motivation to address problems or undertake challenges, and the net result is greater infighting and diminished productivity. On the other hand, a leader who is able to regulate their emotions even in dealing with an employee’s failure can take a step back and ask themselves questions. Was this a personal problem on the employee’s part? In what ways am I responsible for this? How can we work together to improve? Through this thoughtful reflection, the leader not only turns a setback into a success, but also earns the trust and confidence of their employees.

Secondly, self-regulated leaders are adaptable. Most people struggle with change, and the natural response to any drastic change ranges from panic to outright rebellion. This is an excellent opportunity for self-controlled leaders to shine. They keep calm embrace the new that is coming so they can determine the right input that they can offer in the process. This means they’ll take the initiative in gathering information, training, and adapting to the change. Always remember that self-regulated leaders are balanced, flexible and open to new innovations.

Lastly, self-regulated leaders have integrity. The connection between self-control and integrity may not be immediately apparent. However, consider this business principle concerning fraud: fraud happens when a person’s personal ethic is overcome by selfish-motivation and opportunity. In other words, an impulsive person is more likely to seize an opportunity to make underhanded gains. A person who has proper control over their compulsions is less likely to defraud someone or abuse power. Self-regulated leaders stay the course and maintain their posture of integrity.

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