Many of the conversations I have with young leaders these days revolve around the idea of achieving success. While they may not directly ask, “How do I become successful?” most of their questions relate to the idea of reaching a certain level, achieving something incredible, or becoming a person of prominence. In fact, young leaders searching for insight on achieving success have never had so many resources at their disposal.
With the impact that technology has made in the way it connects us and allows us to share ideas, it seems everyone has their own definition of success and the steps you should take to achieve it. Unfortunately, one of the mistakes I see young leaders make when it comes to success is basing their definition of success upon status or net worth. Many of them look at other people their age who have an impressive job title or seem to be making a lot more money and they start to think, “If only I could be that successful.”
If there’s one piece of advice I could give to young leaders when it comes to defining success, it’s that success should not be defined by your net worth. Instead, the real definition of success is in your network. Any definition of success that does not include an appropriate valuing of human relationships is useless and should be thrown out like the trash it is.
Most of the opportunities to unlock success throughout life don’t come because of title or status. Most of the time - in fact, 99.9 percent of the time - they come through relationships.
One of my favorite quotes from Zig Ziglar speaks directly to this idea:
“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”
What does unlocking success through relationships look like?
● It’s learning as much as you can from a mentor and implementing their insights and wisdom to achieve more than you could without it.
● It’s investing in the lives of others to help them achieve success through your experiences.
● It’s maximizing the relationships of the people you work with so that together, you can accomplish more.
● It’s investing in your team, helping them to realize their value in your organization so that productivity increases along with results.
● It’s about relationships and how you can help each other move forward.
Building positive relationships is essential to being “successful” no matter what stage of life you find yourself in. By making a commitment to always help enough other people get what they want, we’ll begin to see the success we desire.
How have relationships unlocked successes for you? In what other ways can people achieve success through relationships?