Who are you hanging out with?


As an avid sports fan, I’ve found it hard to ignore some of the stories and issues over the past few months detailing poor off-the-field behavior by well-known athletes. Some people find it impossible to understand how professional athletes who have everything going for them can do such ridiculous things and throw it all away. However, I don’t think it’s that difficult to understand when you look at a common thread: Many athletes never distance themselves from people who are up to no good. And athletes aren’t the only ones who struggle with distancing themselves from trouble!

A few days ago, I came across a quote that would have done these athletes a lot of good if they had taken it to heart:

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” —Jim Rohn

That’s good advice for all of us! Whether you’ve realized it or not, you become who you surround yourself with. Not only do the people you hang out with create a perception for others about the person you are, but they also play a significant role in shaping the person you’re becoming. This is why successful people hang out with other successful people. It’s also why mentoring and apprenticing are critical for growing into the person you want to become.

If you want to be with people who can draw out the best in you, here are a few things to keep in mind:

Identify the five people influencing your life the most. Are these people you want to be like? Do they bring out the best in you? Do they tear you down or build you up? Are they headed in the same direction you want to go in life? Most people never take the time to intentionally evaluate whether or not the people they do life with bring out their best.

Surround yourself with people who share your values. The people you surround yourself with will either make it easy or difficult for you to live out the things you believe. If you spend time with people who care about heading in the same direction you do, it provides a level of accountability and support that you’ll never find from people whose values don’t line up with yours.

Identify people you admire for who they are just as much as what they do. It’s easy to admire someone because of their accomplishments or talent. However, becoming the best version of yourself is much more about who you are becoming than what you are doing. When you look for a mentor, identify someone who you admire personally just as much as you do professionally. This will ensure you’re growing into the best version of yourself.

Surrounding yourself with people who represent your best is essential if you want to discover your divine design. If you want to become the best version of yourself, be intentional about surrounding yourself with people who share your values and are shaping you to become better than you are today.

Are you intentional about surrounding yourself with people who represent your best? What kind of impact has it made in your life?